Can people change? If someone suddenly changes their ways have they become a better person or are they simply hiding it better? I understand everyone makes mistakes, it's natural and we are only human, temptation is a strong thing and it's a very easy thing to be lured by. ESPECIALLY when it comes to people you have feelings for. Whenever I seem to have strong feelings for someone, they never really go away. There's two I can think of, and my heart still pines for them. I still think about them a lot, although I shouldn't, and I hate it. That being said, I didn't love them but I think there was a chance to, until it all came crashing down.
So do people change? If someone fucks you over, plays you and treats you as a peice of meat and then claims to be different now, is it cruel to discard that possibility or stupid to believe it? I personally think it's stupid to believe them. They say once a cheat, always a cheat and player for life and all these so called phrases, and there's no smoke without fire.
Is it worth giving someone a chance if they've hurt you not once, but twice before? I feel like if I do i'm going to look like an idiot once again and kick myself when it all comes crashing down again and the worst part is I know that inside my mind will say 'I told you so'. And I am my worst enemy, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. I don't think people do change, not as drastically as they claim anyway. I believe change is gradual, and if someone messes you about 3 months previous, they're pretty much definately going to do it again.
Perhaps it's true what people tell me, perhaps I am a massive pessimist, but at the same time I'd rather think the worst and be proven wrong than expect the best and be let down. I've done that too many times, so If I keep myself away from someone I have feelings for, it's better in the long run as I don't want to be tied down and I am terrified of the thought that someone could have the potential to break my heart. I can't deal with the fact that someday, someone may have the biggest hold on me and there's nothing I can do about it.
I'm not scared of being happy, i'm just scared of losing control over what can happen to my feelings. I'd rather bottle them away and leave them to die, or at least fade to nearly nothing, than to open up to someone. As I think they're only going to hurt me in the end, or even worse I'll freak out and hurt them. Self sabotage is a thing I seem to do on a mild scale, it's not a nice thing. I'm suspicious of people's motives, I wonder why they choose me out of thousands of others. I want to know why they like me, why they want to meet me and all other things. I suppose it could be called paranoia, and it's not pretty but I just hate the thought that I could one day let the wrong person in, again, and end up stood there with nothing, not even my own heart.
I don't think someone will change their ways, not until they meet the right person and then it's a natural change. Some people will never change, and it's a sad tale to think like that but it's also very true. I include myself in this category, I can't see myself opening the door, especially not any time soon. I get told i've just not met the right person, but maybe I don't want to. How do I know who's right? I can't base it on my feelings, obviously, as they've been wrong before. There's no explosion of hearts and smiles like in an anime, much as I wish there could be. All in all, I don't think change comes quickly, and I certainly don't think taking a risk on someone who's hurt you is the right thing to do, definately not for me anyway. They're only going to mess me around and hurt me again, even if they don't know they're doing so.
It terrifies me, and I'm not afraid to admit that. Which is almost ironic.
So do people change? If someone fucks you over, plays you and treats you as a peice of meat and then claims to be different now, is it cruel to discard that possibility or stupid to believe it? I personally think it's stupid to believe them. They say once a cheat, always a cheat and player for life and all these so called phrases, and there's no smoke without fire.
Is it worth giving someone a chance if they've hurt you not once, but twice before? I feel like if I do i'm going to look like an idiot once again and kick myself when it all comes crashing down again and the worst part is I know that inside my mind will say 'I told you so'. And I am my worst enemy, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. I don't think people do change, not as drastically as they claim anyway. I believe change is gradual, and if someone messes you about 3 months previous, they're pretty much definately going to do it again.
Perhaps it's true what people tell me, perhaps I am a massive pessimist, but at the same time I'd rather think the worst and be proven wrong than expect the best and be let down. I've done that too many times, so If I keep myself away from someone I have feelings for, it's better in the long run as I don't want to be tied down and I am terrified of the thought that someone could have the potential to break my heart. I can't deal with the fact that someday, someone may have the biggest hold on me and there's nothing I can do about it.
I'm not scared of being happy, i'm just scared of losing control over what can happen to my feelings. I'd rather bottle them away and leave them to die, or at least fade to nearly nothing, than to open up to someone. As I think they're only going to hurt me in the end, or even worse I'll freak out and hurt them. Self sabotage is a thing I seem to do on a mild scale, it's not a nice thing. I'm suspicious of people's motives, I wonder why they choose me out of thousands of others. I want to know why they like me, why they want to meet me and all other things. I suppose it could be called paranoia, and it's not pretty but I just hate the thought that I could one day let the wrong person in, again, and end up stood there with nothing, not even my own heart.
I don't think someone will change their ways, not until they meet the right person and then it's a natural change. Some people will never change, and it's a sad tale to think like that but it's also very true. I include myself in this category, I can't see myself opening the door, especially not any time soon. I get told i've just not met the right person, but maybe I don't want to. How do I know who's right? I can't base it on my feelings, obviously, as they've been wrong before. There's no explosion of hearts and smiles like in an anime, much as I wish there could be. All in all, I don't think change comes quickly, and I certainly don't think taking a risk on someone who's hurt you is the right thing to do, definately not for me anyway. They're only going to mess me around and hurt me again, even if they don't know they're doing so.
It terrifies me, and I'm not afraid to admit that. Which is almost ironic.
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